Inside RuPaul and Husband Georges LeBar’s Famously Private Love Story
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For more than 30 years, RuPaul has been expanding the world of drag for others by being true to himself.
And if the performer born RuPaul Andre Charles has won 14 Emmys and countless hearts and minds in the process of building an empire, so be it. But while his vibe is fearless individuality, the 63-year-old RuPaul’s Drag Race creator hasn’t been dominating the runway of life alone.
“For the love of my life, Georges LeBar,” read the dedication in RuPaul’s 2024 memoir The House of Hidden Meanings. “Thank you for the love, laughter, sweetness and kindness to the love of his life. You are my favorite.”
And while it wasn’t exactly love at first sight, RuPaul really did see his future husband from across a crowded room.
As he detailed in his book, he was newly single and out dancing at Chelsea hotspot Limelight on Jan. 24, 1994, when he spotted a man who seemed to be a head taller than everyone else on the floor. No slouch at 6-foot-4 in bare feet, the then-33-year-old “Supermodel” performer was drawn to the guy’s goofy moves, describing him as “gorgeous and a little wild, with a thick unibrow and high cheekbones.”
So RuPaul headed in his direction.
The roughly 6-foot-8 gentleman in platform shoes turned out to be Georges “with an s at the end,” from Perth, Australia. He was in New York studying at the Fashion Institute of Technology after attending art school in Paris. His father was American and, one day, Georges shared, he would inherit his family’s ranch in Wyoming. And he was celebrating his 21st birthday that very night.
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RuPaul asked if he could put his arms around his shoulders, not used to hugging such a tall man. Georges agreed and literally swept him off his feet.
They ended the evening talking at Florent, a nearby restaurant, and exchanged numbers. The next day, RuPaul—having an extra business class ticket no longer going to his ex—invited Georges to accompany him to London, where he was cohosting the BRIT Awards with Elton John.
RuPaul wrote that he felt “immediately comfortable” with Georges and trusted him “instantaneously,” but also realized upon arrival that his “innocent, wide-eyed” date would be no help “either getting me into drag or working as security.”
Despite all that went right on the trip, which included a jaunt to Germany on Elton’s private jet, RuPaul told Georges when they got back to New York that he thought he was too young for him. But yes, they could still be friends.
Within just a few weeks, however, RuPaul realized that he’d met a genuinely good man, someone who wasn’t anything like the guys he’d spent his own twenties chasing.
“He adored me, he admired me, he respected me,” the artist wrote in his book. “Maybe I had never felt that before from any man.”
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After Georges graduated from FIT (RuPaul put together the music for his final runway show, a mash-up of Tina Turner‘s “Disco Inferno” and Dolly Parton‘s “Baby I’m Burnin'”) he got a job as a designer for J. Crew. But RuPaul—who was traveling all over as his star rose—admittedly wanted Georges free to go everywhere with him.
After a while, RuPaul wrote, he realized their arrangement had “diminished [Georges’] sense of personal purpose,” so he asked him to oversee the renovation of their condo in Miami.
Left to his own devices in Miami while RuPaul was traveling and living part-time in Los Angeles, Georges ended up needing to go to rehab for a meth addiction, according to to the book. RuPaul wrote that he wanted Georges to move to L.A. with him after he finished treatment, but Georges wanted to stay in Florida to focus on his sobriety.
So, RuPaul told him, they’d have to break up. They still talked every day, their split not destined to be permanent, but RuPaul chose this period of his life for The House of Hidden Meanings to end on.
“The book does end when the both of us get sober,” he explained on NPR’s Fresh Air in March. “It was a natural place for the book to end there because it was such a huge change that happened, a huge change that I really didn’t anticipate. But when it did happen, it made so much sense. We split up so that we could focus on our sobriety. And ultimately, after the book, we realize we love each other so much…I couldn’t shake him loose. I couldn’t. He couldn’t shake me loose.”
Now they’ve been together for decades, through triumphs and tragedy, in sickness and in health, for richer and…for even richer than that, RuPaul’s Drag Race having turned into a global franchise.
And Georges did inherit a 60,000-acre ranch in Wyoming, so the couple split their time between there and a palatial Beverly Hills mansion, where they share a color-coded primary closet separate from the also-fabulous space housing RuPaul’s meticulously organized drag wardrobe.
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“He’s so kind and funny,” RuPaul told BuzzFeed in 2015 of his longtime partner, same-sex marriage still a few weeks away from becoming legally recognized all over the U.S. when the article was published June 2. “I remember praying, ‘I want a sweet, sensitive man,’ and I got an Australian who’s just lovely.”
And while the whole “you better work” thing applies to their relationship as much as anyone’s, the couple have tailored their coupledom to suit their needs.
“I don’t stand on ceremony, I never want to conform to anything,” RuPaul said, shrugging off a question about whether he and Georges planned to marry. “We looked into it if we could get a tax break and stuff.”
But the question, Rupaul added, was never, “Is he devoted to me? Am I devoted to him? Oh, hell yes. I never want to be like everybody else.”
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Less than two years later, on the 23rd anniversary of when they met, RuPaul and Georges quietly tied the knot. Because love. And also, because taxes.
“We never wanted to do it,” RuPaul admitted to Hollywood Today Live in March 2017, revealing he was a married man. “We were looking into it really for tax breaks and financial [reasons].”
The newlywed followed up on what was then Twitter a bit later, writing, “Thank you all for the love & kindness. ‘I cry not for myself, but for those who never felt the joy we felt’~The Supremes ‘I Hear A Symphony.'”
And they’ve kept standin’ close to each other, though Georges doesn’t care about show business at all, according to his husband. Still, the artist and designer turned rancher isn’t entirely off the radar, attending the Met Gala and the Emmys in 2019 and joining his spouse at RuPaul’s DragCon in 2022.
But overall, the fiercely private RuPaul has been content keeping his personal life largely out of the public eye.
“Some people in show business parade their relationships around like an accessory and others like to keep it separate from business and commerce,” he told the Canadian Press in 2016. “It’s perfectly fine to say, ‘I actually don’t want to talk about my love because that’s not part of the fantasy world I created in commerce.'”
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In the meantime, he and Georges have had a ball traveling (they’re sightseeing-by-helicopter fans) and doing other non-showbiz-related activities.
So, knowing RuPaul has been happily ensconced with the love of his life for years, the fact that they have an open marriage may come as a shock.
Which isn’t an arrangement they decided on, per se. “The hoax is that monogamy is something that can actually happen,” RuPaul told Vanity Fair in 2019. “I wouldn’t want to put restraints on the person I love the most on this planet. I wouldn’t do that to someone I love, my very best friend.”
Meaning, “if you get something happening that you cannot resist and that’s going to make you happy, go for it,” he explained. “Because the truth is, I know, in my heart of hearts, like I’ve never known anything before, that man loves me more than anything else in this world.”
And it certainly hasn’t made them any less committed to each other. When RuPaul was talking to the New Yorker ahead of the March release of his book, Georges reportedly FaceTimed him from a hospital bed, where he was recovering from a minor medical procedure. “I love you,” RuPaul said before signing off.
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Not to mention, at the time they were in the process of building a fortified compound on their property in Wyoming. “Humans on this planet are in the cycle of destruction,” RuPaul explained. “I am plotting a safety net.”
He “wouldn’t call it a bunker,” he added. “But it is designed to withstand calamity.”
To put it mildly, that sounds like a plan for two people planning to stick together, come hell or high water.
“He’s my favorite person,” RuPaul told NPR, explaining why the ending of his book was nowhere near the end of his and Georges’ story. “I’ve met so many people on this planet. I like him the most. I like him the most of anybody I’ve ever met.”
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