IF YOU’RE NORMAL, you’ve likely fantasized about having a threesome. You’re certainly not alone, my friend.
When Men’s Health advisory board member Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, author of Tell Me What You Want, surveyed over 4,000 people on their sexual fantasies, he found that having a threesome is the most common sexual fantasy among Americans. 95% of men and 87% of women said they had fantasized about sex with multiple partners.
If you ever get a chance to have one, you’ll quickly learn that adding a third person into the mix might be a bit tricky at first. That’s why we rounded up 10 of the most satisfying threesome positions to try.
What You Should Know Before Having a Threesome
BEFORE YOU JUMP into bed with two other people, there are a few important threesome tips to keep in mind. First, if you’re still looking for a third, you should check out our list of the best threesome apps. (And don’t assume just because a woman is bisexual, she’ll want to have a threesome with you. Bi women are often harassed on dating apps, constantly asked if they’d be down to have a threesome, and they’re tired of it!)
Once you know who you’ll be getting down with, you should talk to everyone involved before stripping naked. That means setting clear boundaries and clarifying expectations. Quite a few things can go wrong during a threesome, but by talking it out with all members beforehand, you’ll up the chances of everyone coming away sexually satisfied.
Now, onto those threesome sex positions we promised! It can be complicated trying to fit everyone’s bodies together. Six is a lot of limbs! That’s why we’re here to talk about the best threesome sex positions, including options for bi threesomes, where everyone is into each other, and “devil’s” threesomes, where two of the participants aren’t playing with each other.
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So without further ado, here are 10 threesome sex positions that are super hot and totally doable. (For more sexy ways to switch up your bedroom routine, check out our list of the all-time best sex positions.)
Double Cowgirl
How to Do It: While one partner straddles your waist and junk in a traditional cowgirl position, the other straddles your face allowing you to go down on them.
Pro Tip: The person sitting on your face can straddle you either way, but it’s typically better if they straddle you while facing the other partner, so they, too, can kiss and touch each other if they want.
The Doggy Train
How to Do It: You’re the “caboose” of this train, penetrating your partner doggy style. The middle partner is then either digitally penetrating or eating out the head of the train, who’s also on their knees, bent forward in a classic doggy style position.
Double Oral
How to Do It: Your two partners are on their knees in front of you, both blowing you at the same time.
Pro Tip: It’s best if one blower focuses on you balls while the other focuses on your penis. Depending on if you’re into it, one partner could actually be on their knees, rimming you from behind while the other person goes down on you from the front.
The Doggy Deluxe
How to Do It: You’re having sex with the first partner doggy style. The third partner is lying on their back positioned in a manner that allows the middle person to go down on them.
69 Train (aka Daisy Train)
How to Do It: Everyone is lying on their sides in a circular position eating out/blowing one another.
Pro Tip: I wouldn’t do this if the people you’re with aren’t roughly your size. If you’re a foot taller than the other partners, this may be difficult to navigate.
Eiffel Tower/Spit Roast
How to Do It: The partner in the middle gets penetrated from behind and performs a BJ at the same time.
Pro Tip: I’m personally not into touching both hands at the top to create the appearance of the Eiffel Tower, but if you feel the urge, I’m not going yuck your yum.
The Classic DP (Double Penetration)
How to Do It: One person lies on their back underneath the vulva-owning partner, who’s also on their back. The other partner penetrates them in the missionary position.
Pro Tip: Porn stars deserve a raise because they make this look so easy, when in fact, it’s quite difficult. But here are some tips that can help: Have the person with the bigger penis be in the backdoor, because the angle makes it’s more likely he’s going to slip out. Both penis-owners should not attempt to thrust at the same time, because if you do, one of you will slip out almost immediately.
The Doggy Blowjob
How to Do It: This is the same as the Doggy Deluxe, except with two penis-owners. One of them is having sex with the vulva-owning partner in doggy style. The other person lies on their back to easily receive oral.
The Train
How to Do It: Everyone lies on their sides and penetrates the person in front of them either anally or vaginally.
Pro Tip: Really squish yourselves together for this position. If you have too much space between you, someone is going to slip out.
The Human Centipede
How to Do It: It’s like the 2009 horror movie…except actually good. In this position, all three people are on their knees, rimming the person in front of them.
Pro Tip: Despite the awful (but hilarious) name, this is amazing for guys who are into analingus. It’s also a great position to start in, because from there, it’s easy to seamlessly move into a number of the more penetrative sex positions listed above, like the Doggy Train or Doggy Deluxe.
