12 Best Strap-Ons and Harnesses in 2024
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Whether you’re a top, bottom, vers, or hoping to find out, adding one (or two!) of the best strap-ons you can buy to your toy collection will make exploring in the bedroom all the more enjoyable. Using a strap-on is a hot way to try anal play and switch up power dynamics—and straps are, of course, a regular part of sex for many queer people.
First-time shopper? Here’s what you need to know: a strap-on is basically a harness that can hold a dildo, which allows you to give (or receive) hands-free anal or vaginal penetration. They come in two main styles: jockstrap harnesses and underwear harnesses. “Jockstrap harnesses have straps that go around the waist and thighs, which makes them secure, comfortable, and flexible for different kinds of play,” Shadeen Francis, LMFT, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, tells SELF. They tend to be the most adjustable, making it easier for people with different body shapes and sizes to find the right fit. Underwear harnesses, which look (and are sized like) regular undies, have panels or a ring built into them to hold a dildo.
Apart from these two popular styles, there are also harnesses that fit chins, thighs, and hands. Some harnesses are fashioned like suspenders or corsets, and there are even strapless strap-ons (which don’t need a harness at all). Because there are so many options to choose from, we spoke to sex experts and scoured customer reviews to figure out everything you need to know about buying the best strap-on for you, whether you’re getting your first one or your twentieth.
Our top picks
- Best Overall: SpareParts Joque Harness
- Best Budget: Lovehoney Universal Strap-On Harness
- Best Kit for Anal Sex Beginners: Lovehoney Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit
- Most Adjustable Harness: Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Size Harness
- Best for a Rabbit Vibrator: Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On Set
- Best Vibrating: Pegasus Curved Ripple Harness Set
- Best Strapless: Lovehoney Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap-On Vibrator
- Best Smart Option: Lovense Lapis Strapless Strap-On
- Best for Anal Sex: Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
- Best Underwear: CalExotics Packer Gear Harness Boxer
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The best strap-ons
Below are the best harnesses and strap-ons. We made sure that all these picks are body-safe, highly rated, and follow our experts’ guidelines for maximum comfort and pleasure.
All products featured on SELF are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.
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SpareParts
Hardwear Joque Harness
Best Overall
- Pros: Supportive and comfortable, compatible with a wide range of toys
- Cons: Next to none—practically perfect
Four experts that we spoke to praised the Joque for its fit, features, flexibility, and feel. “This harness offers great support and is adjustable for different body sizes and toys,” Jennifer Litner, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and founder of Embrace Sexual Wellness, tells SELF. Carol Queen, PhD, who works at the sex toy store Good Vibrations, particularly likes that its O-ring, which holds the base of a dildo, is made of a flexible elastic, so you can swap in toys of varying widths.
This model comes with two internal pockets for bullet vibes, too. You can stow one vibrator in a pouch above the O-ring to provide a “pleasurable buzz” to the wearer and the person receiving in a face-to-face position, Dr. Queen says. The second pocket can hold a vibrator against the perineum or between the labia, and can stimulate the genitals of the person being penetrated in front-to-back positions like reverse cowgirl.
- Available sizes: size A and size B | Adjustment range: 20 to 50 inches (size A), 35 to 60 inches (size B)| Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, built-in elastic O-ring
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Lovehoney
Universal Strap-On Harness
Best Budget
- Pros: Affordable, beginner-friendly, multiple O-rings
- Cons: Excess straps hang loose and can be distracting (according to reviewers)
Comfy and compatible with a range of dildo sizes, Lovehoney’s Universal Harness checks our most essential boxes—and at $25, it costs a bit less than some other models. It has three O-rings you can swap in and out, depending on the size of your toy, and a pocket for a bullet vibrator. Reviewers wrote that the adjustable fit felt comfortable and secure, and that the harness overall is a great value.
- Available sizes: One size | Adjustment range: 28 to 65 inches | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, three O-rings
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Lovehoney
Beginner’s Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit
Best Kit for Anal Sex Beginners
- Pros: Relatively affordable, compatible with bullet vibes, beginner-friendly dildo
- Cons: Straps may dig or pinch (according to reviewers)
This Lovehoney strap-on kit is a nice option for people who are new to receiving anal penetration. It includes the essentials: a machine-washable harness, multiple O-rings, and a silicone dildo that’s on the shorter side, so the recipient can get used to the sensation before experimenting with deeper penetration or more girth. Plus, it’s under $50 and has a pocket inside the harness that can hold a bullet vibrator.
- Available sizes: One size | Adjustment range: 18 to 68 inches | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, dildo (5-inch), three O-rings
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Sportsheets
Divine Diva Plus-Sized Harness
Most Adjustable Harness
- Pros: Great adjustment range, padded back band, relatively affordable
- Cons: Excess straps hang loose (some reviewers recommend trimming them once you find your fit)
Compared to many harnesses that only adjust up to around 60 inches, this Sportsheets strap-on extends up to 82 inches (the largest on our list). That’s a major reason why it’s a hit among PinkCherry shoppers: “I’m a curvy woman and have had five harnesses over the years,” one reviewer wrote. “The Divine is very adjustable, has comfortable front and back padded support, and stays in place regardless of the movements of either the giver or receiver.”
- Available sizes: One size | Adjustment range: 28 to 82 inches | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, three O-rings
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Happy Rabbit
Vibrating Strap-On Set
Best for a Rabbit Vibrator
- Pros: Waterproof rabbit vibe, good value for a set
- Cons: The rabbit ears may feel too stiff for some
The rabbit vibrator—one of the most popular styles of sex toys—is a type of dildo that also has “ears” that can stimulate the clit. This versatile set comes with a rabbit vibe that has a flared base (unlike most classic rabbits), so you can fit it inside the included harness’s O-ring and it won’t slip out. You also have the option to switch in a regular dildo or use the vibrator on its own.
- Available sizes: One size | Adjustment range: up to 67 inches | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, vibrating rabbit dildo (5-inch), three O-rings, USB power cord
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Pegasus
Curved Dildo With Harness
Best Vibrating
- Pros: Waterproof vibrating dildo, holster for remote control
- Cons: Battery fades without regular charging
This set is a favorite of Heather Shannon, LCPC, a certified sex therapist and host of the podcast Ask a Sex Therapist. The harness offers basic features like an adjustable waist, but the vibrating dildo is the star of the show. The Pegasus has a curved shaft that can reach the G-spot or P-spot, has a suction cup base, and is completely remote-controllable from up to 30 feet away. You or your partner can choose from 15 vibrations and six speeds.
- Available sizes: One size | Adjustment range: up to 67 inches | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, vibrating dildo (6-inch), three O-rings, remote control, USB power cord
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Lovehoney
Desire Luxury Rechargeable Strapless Strap-On
Best Strapless
- Pros: Waterproof, wide range of vibration patterns and speeds
- Cons: Setting controls can be hard to reach when in use
This expert-recommended strapless strap-on is ideal for people who want to experience penetration while also penetrating someone else, says Shannon. The Desire vibrator has two ends: a curved (and bendable) one to fit inside the wearer’s vagina (with rabbit ears for clit stimulation) and one shaped like a phallus. And, with its eight different vibration patterns (and 12 speed settings), it offers up a wide variety of sensations and levels of stimulation.
Available sizes: N/A | Adjustment range: N/A | Items included: Vibrator, lockable storage case, USB power cord
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Lovense
Lapis App Controlled Vibrating Strapless Strap-On
Best Smart Option
- Pros: Waterproof, battery life exceeds two hours
- Cons: Pricey
Lovense, a top-rated brand we’ve recommended previously, made this strapless option with an integrated app that lets the user control its settings remotely and synchronize it with music on their phone (if you don’t already have a groovy sex playlist ready to go, this is your sign to make one). The toy itself is firm yet flexible with a “sleek and sturdy” feel, as one reviewer put it. With the customizable vibrations and three separate motors (one in the bulb, one in the base, and one in the tip), you have a lot of speed and pattern combos available at your fingertips.
- Available sizes: N/A | Adjustment range: N/A | Items included: Vibrator, USB power cord
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Tracey Cox
Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
Best for Anal Sex
- Pros: Great value for a kit, machine-washable harness
- Cons: Bullet vibe battery isn’t rechargeable
If you’re trying to get into butt play, you can count on this best-selling Tracey Cox set, which comes highly recommended by Lovehoney shoppers, to get the ball rolling. “The well-constructed harness, choice of two dildos, and added bullet vibrator make the kit a great value for couples looking to embark on their pegging journey,” one reviewer writes. It’s also a top pick for Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, who appreciates that it’s easy to wash.
- Available sizes: One size | Adjustment range: up to 65 inches | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness; two dildos (4.5- and 6-inch); three O-rings; bullet vibrator
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CalExotics
Packer Gear Harness Boxer
Best Underwear
- Pros: Affordable, comfortable, and stretchy
- Cons: Only outfitted with one O-ring
These boxers can function as your everyday undies, and none would be the wiser. But when the mood strikes, they have a sewn-in O-ring that’s strong enough to support a dildo (or double dildo, which penetrates the wearer and partner simultaneously).
As a bonus: The harness is also thoughtfully designed with an internal strap that snugly secures packers in place. “As someone who struggles with my body image being trans, these are perfect for me,” one Lovehoney shopper writes. “They’re super comfy on my body, great for holding my packer, and help me feel less conscious of how I look so I can just enjoy time with my partner.”
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SpareParts
Sasha Couture Harness
Best Underwear Runner-Up
- Pros: Cute design, versatile
- Cons: Very pricey
If you’re looking for a strap-on with more embellishments, try this option from Sasha Couture. It’s an underwear-style harness with ribbons, lace, and garters, and Dr. Queen is a fan. These undies feel sleek while still having plenty of storage options for your toys: sewn-in panels hold a dildo and two pouches accommodate bullet vibes. “The Sasha harness is gorgeous to look at, more comfortable than most underwear, multifunctional, and easy to care for,” writes one reviewer. “The back panels of the pouch area can be moved to accommodate double-ended dildos, or to allow someone to keep the base of the dildo flush against their body.”
- Available sizes: XS to 3XL | Adjustment range: N/A | Items included: Underwear harness
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SpareParts
Deuce Harness
Best for Double Penetration
- Pros: Elastic O-rings, comfortable
- Cons: Pricey
The Deuce is designed with two rings, meaning a penis can go through one hole and a dildo through the other for double penetration. Dr. Queen notes that this strap-on has a built-in pouch that’s useful for anyone who wants to tuck away their penis without it getting squished by the dildo’s base.
- Available sizes: size A and size B | Adjustment range: 20 to 50 inches (size A); 35 to 65 inches (size B) | Items included: Adjustable jockstrap harness, two built-in O-rings
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What to consider when shopping for a strap-on
When you’re buying a strap-on, you often shop for the harness and dildo separately. But if you’re new to strap-ons or just want something super-easy, plenty of beginner kits include both pieces.
If you go the route of choosing your dildo and strap-on individually, Francis recommends you factor in comfort and sizing. If staying comfy is your priority, underwear harnesses are often softer than jockstrap styles, Dr. Queen says. And if you’re using a larger dildo (over two inches in girth or eight inches in insertable length), opt for a sturdier harness—like a jockstrap—with ample adjustability so you can tighten the fit for more support.
You’ll also want to take a look at the O-ring, which is the rubber, metal, or nitrile ring that secures the dildo. Some harnesses include multiple O-rings of different sizes that you can swap in and out, while others have elastic ones that can stretch to accommodate a variety of dildos. To figure out the best O-ring size for your toy, you can use this handy Lovehoney calculator.
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Malia Griggs is a writer and editor who joined SELF’s commerce team in 2020. Previously, she worked at The Daily Beast, Comedy Central, and Cosmopolitan. In addition to shopping, she has written about mental health, epilepsy, and relationships.
Sara Coughlin is a writer and editor with ample experience covering health and wellness trends. As SELF’s senior commerce writer, she’s taken a special interest in skin care, outdoor recreation, sleep, fitness gear and apparel, and more.
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