What Is The Eiffel Tower Position? Sex Experts Explain Sabrina Carpenter’s ‘Juno’ Position In Paris

Most sex positions are designed for two people, but what about when two become three? Well, just ask Sabrina Carpenter. Last weekend, during her Short n’ Sweet tour stop in Paris, the pop star shared a très apropos suggestion with the Eiffel Tower.

Now, for the non-Carpenters and anyone else who hasn’t seen Sabrina’s concert videos on TikTok, during each performance of “Juno,” the singer asks the audience, “Have you ever tried this one?” before miming a different sex position.

Arguably the most infamous threesome position of all time, the Eiffel Tower gets a bit of a bad rap (which explains why some people on the internet might’ve been scandalized by Sabrina’s choice to do it on tour). The idea is that two partners penetrate a third partner who’s between them on all fours. One partner is having intercourse; the other is receiving oral sex. Then, the penetrating partners high-five, thus making their bodies look very vaguely like the famous Parisian landmark.

It seems like a sex position that frat bros aspire to have, without giving any thought to the pleasure of the third person involved. (Don’t be like those guys. Those guys suck.) But, the Eiffel Tower can and should be a fun position where all people involved are having a blast.

“This position includes fun, novelty, psychological titillation, and hopefully the memory of a peak sexual experience,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, sex therapist, and author of She Comes First. With Kerner’s help, we broke down everything there is to know about the Eiffel Tower sex position, including how to do it, why it’s appealing, and position variations. Here’s how to score a one-way ticket to Paris without leaving your bedroom. Bon voyage!

How To Do The Eiffel Tower

Getting into the position is pretty simple—it doesn’t require any superhuman flexibility or muscle strength. The receiving partner gets down on all fours. Next, one partner penetrates them from behind, while the other partner receives oral sex from the person in the middle. Finally…the high five.

The Eiffel Tower vs. A Spit-Roast: The hand-to-hand contact at the top of the position is what gives the Eiffel Tower its name. In the spit-roast position—where the person in the middle is “skewered,” so to speak—there is no hand-touching. But don’t get bogged down as to whether you’re technically in the Eiffel Tower position or spit-roast position. Unless you’re really into mid-sex high-fives, the distinction won’t matter at all.

The Benefits Of The Eiffel Tower Sex Position

This threesome configuration can be hot for everyone involved. The partners on either end are getting plenty of genital attention—but that’s just the beginning of the appeal.

“It also provides a sense of domination as well as a lot of visual stimulation,” Kerner says. “They can look down and see a person being penetrated at both ends or look at each other and enjoy the mirroring of each other’s pleasure.” There’s even a sense of camaraderie in the Eiffel Tower position; you and your best bud are dominating this person together—you’re sharing the sexual experience.

For the person in the middle, there’s an element of submission that can be very arousing. “Submitting is hot because it’s a chance to relinquish power, surrender to pleasure, and enjoy the fantasy of being sexually objectified,” Kerner says.

There’s also a feeling of sexual accomplishment. You’re taking two penises at the same time; you are a goddamn sex god! Not everyone can give a great blowjob while getting plowed, but you can. Not to mention that penetration can feel damn good, regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, or genitals. And if you’re someone who loves giving head, then this is just a win-win.

Finishing the act might be the best part of all. Think about when you’re having sex, and you get into a rhythm that puts you in a sexual flow state that culminates in simultaneous orgasm. Now imagine entering that flow state with not just one partner, but two, and there being three simultaneous orgasms. “Erecting the tower is fun, but not as fun as when it collapses in a collective climax,” Kerner says.

Before you try this at home: Keep in mind that if partners are of vastly different heights, it can be tricky to make everything line up. (A pillow or sex wedge could help you out, if you’re struggling.) It can also be uncomfortable for the person in the middle, especially if they’re not used to being on their knees.

Variations To The Eiffel Tower Position

“See what happens when the person in the middle flips over on the back, which may require the partners on the end to get on all fours,” Kerner says. At this point, it’s no longer the Eiffel Tower position, but who cares? The point here is getting the most pleasure possible and having a fun time with your two partners.

Don’t worry about getting the form exactly right, Kerner explains. “Maybe the partner in the middle needs to be flat on their stomach and up on their elbows, or the person doing the penetrating might need to stand off the bed,” he adds. There’s likely going to be a lot of fine-tuning that needs to be done, and form shouldn’t take precedence over pleasure.

And while the two sides of the tower can look at each other, it’s also important not to lose eye contact with the person in the middle to make sure they’re safe and satisfied. “As always, consent, caring, communication, and some caution (the 4Cs) are always paramount,” Kerner says.